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What is BDSM?

BDSM is an abbreviation or acronym for (BD) Bondage and Discipline, (Ds) Dominance and Submission, (SM) Sadism and Masochism.

So what are the definitions for the elements of BDSM?

Bondage:

This is the art of restraining people by the use of ropes, bondage tape, shackles or cuffs. Most of the equipment used is designed to restrain without causing visible marks (most of us have to go to work and explaining the marks could be very difficult).

Discipline:

This is administered either by verbal commands by a Master or Mistress to their Submissives and Slaves, or by erotic punishments through use of canes, paddles, whips or hands.

Dominance:

Being in charge of a scene or play, usually by a Master or Mistress over a Submissive(s) or Slave(s)

Submission:

Letting someone else take control of your activities, acting out the scenes and fantasies of a Master or Mistress.

Sadism:

The enjoyment of giving extreme stimulation which may be sexual in nature and which may with the recipients agreement include various degrees of pain.

Masochism:

The enjoyment of receiving extreme stimulation which may be sexual in nature and which may with the recipients agreement include various degrees of pain.

These activities are carried out in safe environments and under a rule of Informed Consent.


What is Informed Consent?

  • Informed consent is the condition under which the people involved in any BDSM activities are aware beforehand of the meaning of each term, the prior agreement of all participants of the limits to which each activity will go and the agreement of safe words which will bring the activities to an immediate halt.
  • No-one can give "Informed consent" if they are under the legal age of consent in the place where the activities are carried out.
  • No-one who is classified as a vulnerable or at risk adult can give informed consent.

Many people fantasize about some elements of the BDSM scene but very few like or want to be involved in all of them. Like everything in life choose what you want to do and leave the rest, Never get involved in any activity that you find unpleasant or which you do not want to do.

People who take the active role in a BDSM "scene" or session are referred to as "tops", and the person they do BDSM to, as "bottoms". So we talk about tops that are good at putting people in bondage or using a flogger, and bottoms that can take a severe caning or who like to be fisted. (Some gay men also use "top" and "bottom" to refer to who penetrates who, but in BDSM the terms are completely general and not limited to sex.) Many people enjoy being both and are said to be "switches".

The other dimension is dominance and submission (D/s). The person who is in charge is the "dominant" or "dom", and the person who submits to them is the "submissive" or "sub". Most of the time, dominants are also tops, but this isn't always the case: some dominants have no interest in doing physical BDSM like bondage or flogging to submissives; and many tops don't want to be in charge. A useful rule of thumb is to see who it's being done for and who is making the decisions: if that's one person, they're the dominant. A good example of this are "service tops" who inflict bondage or SM for the benefit of bottom and pretty much to order. Many service tops are submissives when they form D/s relationships.

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